You over hear your 15 yo son teasing his friend for attending church (or a different one that your son attends) calling him a freak, playfully, but clearly upsetting the other boy. Do you intervene and stop your son?
I wouldn't intervene, I'd say something to him later in private.
Oh damn, Republicans finally won one.
Is his friend a Baptist?
Absolutely. Its my job as parent to guide my child in appropriate interactions.
Yes. That's not nice at all.
I would encourage him, he speaks the truth. Wussy-boy needs to get over it.
So tolerant, and arrogant.
I bet you wouldn't feel that way if the boy was Muslim.
religious devotion like church or being a christian, is the one group of people left in America, that is never included in "tolerance" discussions or made to feel apart of the community. people will fight you to death over gays rights. black rights..
anybody. but if ur a christian or have religious beliefs then SCREW YOU right?
im a white christian male of 21. i have gay coworkers and friends. i respect elders. i treat women well. two of my groomsmen are black and good friends. i treat people for who they are amd base them on their ACTIONS. as u should me.
Judging from these results, we, as a whole, are entirely against talking bad to those of faith, at least 90% of us are
Why would I stop him? I'd be joining him
You know that makes you a bully, right? I'm sure you don't care though.
You're going to need to scrape that "tolerance" bumper sticker off your car.
Oh yes and the other kid would be able to hear. He would also apologize to him and his parents in person.
why do so many people say they would talk to him in private? why not speak to him in front of the other kid?
I would pull him aside as the question states they're friends, friends tease each other. I wouldn't let my son bring him to tears but would let their friendship play out on its own.
so you would pull him aside because friends tease each other?
Smack him upside the head. Then force him to attend church with his friend for a month.
I'd call him over and talk to him about it away from the other kids. Let him know that if it's okay for him to treat the other kid that way, then ANYONE can pick on him for ANY reason they see fit and he won't get any sympathy from me.
why can't you do it in front of the other kid? I'm sure he would appreciate you Sticking up for him.
Because the way I'm going to talk about it will be somewhat humiliating, and 2 wrongs (humiliating him in front of his peers) don't make a right.
I guess, but humiliating him in private is wrong too. so, sometimes too wrongs do make a right?
I think there is a very fine line, maybe saying if humiliate him is a little much, but I'd try to put him in the other kids shoes. For example: "how would you feel if they found out you wet the bed until you were 10 and started telling everyone?"
I'd wait to see how it played out, and chat with my son later.
I would. We do not put other peoples faith down. I would gently intervene at the time. And I would talk to my son privately. That members of our ancestry paid for the freedom of religion with their lives.
Yes. A nice slap to the back of the head should get his attention.
I'm certain my parents would have dragged me by the ear and smacked me in front of my friends for being a bully, them took me in private to discuss why I got hut.
No I get on SoH and ask what I should do. :P
Good plan, and from the looks of things, I have no other choice but to wiggle my way into these lads' conversation
Yes, that's very inappropriate and rude. You don't treat others that way, especially friends and family.
Clearly he's been on Show of Hands too much...
I was thinking something similar, really surprised by the results, had no idea there were so many of us against teasing people for their faith :)
Yes. Respect of other humans is paramount. If he's not being respectful, he needs to fix it.
I'd sock him in the throat.
Oh dear Lord help me, that comment made me laugh.
"Haha weirdo, way aren't you at...*choking*" *Punches son* "Kya bitch!"
No, but I talk to him later. Explain what he did wrong and ask him to apologize
Heck yea I would intervene! He is not grown yet...it is my job to teach him sensitivity & manners & respect for other people's feelings...and to NOTICE that subtle hurt...I would NOT embarrass my son, but I would pull him aside & tell him.
I tell him to knock it off. He's not too old to learn a new lesson or be reminded of one he should have had down cold by the time he was about three. It's never a wrong time to act like a parent.
I'd excuse him out of the room ("can you please lend me a hand for a few minutes") them address it. Teasing is fine as long as its fun but if it's a sore subject or makes others upset my kid needs to apologize or at the very least stop his behavior.
I'd casually intervene- I'd act like I thought they were just talking about their religions and make nice conversation until one of them changed the subject. Then I'd explain to my son later about not being a dick.
⬆️⬆️checkout judymill and druggist. Yuck!
You can't believe that those are the only two on here that feel it's alright to bash another's faith
Certainly not. They're just the ones that have exposed themselves thus far. There's lots of religion haters these days.
I see it plenty on this app alone
I'd say something. I wouldn't make a scene, but I'd tell him to cut it out. I think any kind of joking should stop when it's really bothering the other person.
I keep thinking how uber busy my parents would've been attempting to curb hurtful teasing just among me and my brothers, and attempting to control it with our friends? Forget about it
I know what you're saying, but I guess it comes down to intent. My 13yo daughter can be so malicious to my 10yo son, and I hate that. Lighthearted teasing that isn't meant to hurt is at least a little better.
Yes, I would. I would speak up toward him regardless of age. If they're in my presence, I expect that they'll behave like respectful human beings. There's no reason someone need be upset if it can be prevented. Just because you can say something
doesn't mean that you should; referring to my son teasing another person, not my intervening as a parent.
Actually, I expect for them to behave respectfully towards everyone regardless of whether or not I'm there. It'd be shameful, as a parent, if my child behaved in such a manner.
I remind him later not to be a dįck about it, but I don't intervene unless it's getting physical..
If the other boy is required to wear a dress at the service then leave your son alone.
I'm not understanding this
More snow ron. Get that blower ready. My husband left for work which means guess who has to attempt to shovel. Not gonna work well
Sorry Bob! My poor attempt, again, at humor! If his Church make men wear dresses then then 15 yo can't help it!
Bob. Ron is correct. He has no sense of humor. Ignore him thats what i do
CC, good luck with the snow. I thought an inch or two but it's look more like 6-7. I'll start her snowblower when she's ready!
Another one saturday. We've got tix fir jersey boys in city. There goes $200 bucks
I can't ignore rons, I just wanted to be part of the funny.
Bob - there is a lesson in this. Ron is never funny. Pay no attention to the man behind the snow blower
Let's leave it at SILLY! I forgot, Alter boys wear a dress at mass. W
You bet I'd stop him. At seven years old, my son needs to learn when enough is enough.
Whoops, I thought the boy was seven. At 15, I don't get involved.
I don't get involved with their conversations too much either. You run the risk of inciting some "hey brah, you're lucky my folks were there to protect your delicate little feelings"
So you won't stop the teasing because it might lead to teasing? I'm afraid I don't follow.
Might? In my personal experience, I will, not only, lead to more teasing, it will drastically increases it.
It not I, there seems to be something Freudian with that
If he isn't threatening or bullying, why should I? Free speech. Besides, in this situation I'd suspect he learned that from yours truly ;)
I wanted to see how this question would compare to ripping on the boy for seeing a therapist. What would define bullying?
I agree with praetorianus, he probably learned from me as well. And Bob, I don't think this compares at all to therapy, therapy is real
Is it now?
Yes it is, therapy is based on real science, not a book written thousands of years ago
Aye, but the outcome beith the same, if thou shalt believe, thou shalt reap the spiritual benefits. If I go into therapy thinking that this will never work for me, do you think I'll gain anything from the therapy?
No, but therapy is completely different, the people are going through it to better their mental state, balance their lives, or deal with personal trauma. Not the same thing!
:) good to know
Let's see how many think they're the same
This is in front of you? I would. Because he's also insulting you.