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Show Of Hands September 25th, 2012 12:00am

You promise a friend you will keep a secret. Your spouse wants to know what it is. Do you share the secret with your spouse, or do you keep the promise?

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09/30/12 10:35 am

If it impacted her in any way... Then possibly. Only if she SHOULD know.

xxclixxx Rhode Island
09/30/12 7:32 am

I consider my wife and I as one unit. if you tell either of us assume we both know. that being said we don't want to tell each other everthing our friends are going through.. TMI!

09/29/12 7:50 pm

Depends. If your wife is someone you can trust implicitly, then yes.

09/29/12 12:17 am

Hahah I love the male/female split on this one

NJConserve New Jersey
09/28/12 5:18 pm

My Spouse knows everything period.

09/28/12 12:50 pm

I'd tell my wife anything - unless I had been specifically told not to tell her or anybody else :)

09/28/12 11:39 am

My word is my bond. I would never willingly break a promise to a friend.

I would tell my spouse all MY secrets, but a friends secret is not my own to tell.

uglyfemme Colorado Springs
09/27/12 10:27 pm

I hope you don't call your partner a hoe! :p

Ogias2012 Virginia
09/27/12 9:57 pm

a spouse is an extension of yourself

09/27/12 4:00 pm

No such thing as a secret.

09/27/12 4:18 am

I tell my wife everything, secrets are never good in a marriage, in any form

09/27/12 12:38 am

You should tell your friend that you'll tell your spouse if there is a question. My friends know I'm a vault.

09/27/12 12:34 am

All married men give out that info.

swa North Carolina
09/26/12 8:15 pm

Bros before ho.... never mind, I would probably tell her. X-/

09/26/12 8:03 pm

It all depends on what it is, but I probably would tell most of the time.

phantom Colorado
09/26/12 7:35 pm

It really just depends what the secret is, but my spouse is my other half, so he'd probably hear it eventually.

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
09/26/12 8:53 am

No, I wouldn't tell my spouse. Just like he wouldn't want his secrets told, I wouldn't tell him someone else's.

09/26/12 7:55 am

I keep my promises. If she (spouse) was intended to know the secret, then she would have been told.

09/26/12 6:58 am

My spouse is my partner in life. Marriage has made us one, therefor if you share something you share it with her too. I trust her with my life and kids, so I should trust her also with your secret. Unless it is a gift for her. Then I keep it to myself.

Hawkn Texas
09/26/12 5:55 am

You can share your own secrets with your spouse, but why share someone else's secret? Marriage makes no sense to me

kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
09/26/12 5:50 am

Depends on the person and the secret. If I want no one to know I either specify "No One not even your partner". Or I don't tell my secret.

09/26/12 5:44 am

Definition of SECRET: 2.
kept from the knowledge of any but the initiated or privileged: a secret password.
I don't get it, when the person confided in you, did they say your spouse was privileged? Did you ask if they could be " privileged"?
If not, then shut up!

ProfDG I Want Truth
09/26/12 5:35 am

The spouse shouldn't even know that there is even a secret in the first place.

frankvd Clearwater, fl
09/26/12 5:24 am

My wife is part of me. I trust her 1000% to keep the secret.

09/26/12 2:36 am

I think most of my friends know that telling me not to tell anyone means I won't tell anyone except my husband.

captain12345 Tennessee
09/26/12 2:17 am

I don't think I could keep anything from my wife she has gave me her life and she tells me everything and I love her with all my heart so I would tell her anything

09/26/12 1:41 am

This is a tough question. What if my wife has a big mouth? And if I don't share it with her then she will likely think that I don't trust her.
Forget it I'm keeping the secret. But I still love my wife.

cornybread The Large Malus Fruit
09/25/12 10:44 pm

if it didn't have anything to do with him then I'd keep it. it really depends though

susanr Colorado
09/25/12 10:11 pm

I'd really like an "are you sure" button too. I accidentally reported someone tonight too, and I know I'll most likely do it again because the report button is right under my thumb when I scroll.

brianparks69 charlotte
09/25/12 9:29 pm

Keep it unless she withholds sex...

09/25/12 9:20 pm

It would depend on what the secret is. If its something that would be innocuous to tell my spouse, I would. But if there was some reason he shouldn't know, or my friend specifically said NOT to tell him. I wouldn't.

pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
09/25/12 9:18 pm

If you give your word to keep a matter in confidence, you must follow through. The person you tell it to often has no vested interest in keeping your friend's secret.

pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
09/25/12 9:15 pm

I've been in this exact situation before. She was so mad that I wouldn't tell her. Eventually our friend told her as well so that she wouldn't be pissed at me anymore.

09/25/12 8:51 pm

There's a lot of two faced people out there

09/25/12 8:25 pm

I keep accidentally reporting people. I really apologize!!

I just figured out why this is happening, though. I tend to scroll through comments on the left hand side of the screen. It's easy for my finger to tap the report button.

Tony, would it be very hard for you to add "are you sure"?

09/25/12 7:56 pm

Most best friends would expect you to share with your spouse. If not, must be a good reason not to share with your spouse

09/25/12 7:45 pm

I keep nothing from my husband. We are of the same mind and have the same vested interests. He knows everything I do.

monkeyy Ohio
09/25/12 7:37 pm

If I were married(i'm not),and the secret concerned me, I'd probably tell my husband about it. I would hope I would be able to trust him not to tell anyone else. Family doesn't count sometimes, if something's bothering you.

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
09/25/12 6:40 pm

If I give my word I keep it. The only time I'd not keep it was a matter of death. Or a crime. Then it would not be my husband.

09/25/12 6:18 pm

Not necessarily a secret, but people, friends, needed someone to talk to and they felt they could talk to me without it ending up all over the place. Isn't that what friends are for, to help in times of need?

scottstots Georgia
09/25/12 6:10 pm

I don't keep secrets from my wife, so I wouldn't make the promise in the first place. I'm not 5, so I don't do the secret thing

Torfin Never Behind
09/25/12 6:03 pm

Unless it was classified nationally I share with my wife. If she even cares to know. Nobody else.

Torfin Never Behind
09/25/12 6:03 pm

Unless it was classified nationally I share with my wife. If she even cares to know. Nobody else.

09/25/12 6:02 pm

Man, I don't know if I would want to confide a secret to 50% of the people on here! Wife and I used to work together and people were always surprised that we didn't know something they told one of us in confidence. That's the way to should be.

09/25/12 5:59 pm

My wife can't keep her mouth shut whether consciously or unconsciously so depending in what the secret is would effect the my answer but from experience I say no