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HBNY February 6th, 2019 11:45pm

Do you think it is okay to go on a first/second/third date with two or more individuals, as long as there’s no commitment made yet? (See comments.)

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cpaswr just say the letters
02/06/19 5:08 pm

Yes. But, you need to be honest that you are openly dating others.

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shygal47 Florida east coast
02/06/19 5:52 pm

As long as you are open to telling each of them that you aren’t quite ready to settle down and that there are other interested parties, I don’t see an issue. Better to be up front than hurt someone’s feelings.
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ctskapski x
02/06/19 8:05 pm

Yes.
You shouldn't feel secure until we're cuddling on the couch discussing where Bundy could've done better.

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HBNY this space for rent
02/06/19 4:48 pm

I have at least two guys interested in possibly dating me. I’ve been on a first “meeting” for coffee with one, and there will be a second date/meeting/whatever on Friday. And another guy is interested in meeting for a first date as well. Just figured I’d make a poll about it.

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Cheif
02/06/19 5:03 pm

Of course it’s ok. You would be doing a disservice to the person you “settle” for if you don’t make sure you are happy. Also, you should make sure you’re happy. Unhappy relationships suck your soul.

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ctskapski x
02/07/19 9:25 am

Ted, Al... improvements could have been made across the board, really.

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lcamino Florida and Georgia
02/06/19 7:19 pm

I think so, just be honest with them.

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HBNY this space for rent
02/07/19 1:15 am

Bundy?
Al Bundy? I’m confused.

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cpaswr just say the letters
02/06/19 6:02 pm

When in doubt, admit it. Better safe than sorry.

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snagglepuss Story Time
02/07/19 1:37 am

Yes, as long as you can mentally and emotionally handle it.

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anniepoops fear the deer
02/06/19 7:49 pm

Why not? You’re getting to know people.

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EarlyBird Portland
02/06/19 6:27 pm

I’m happy for you! I hope one of these guys works out.

It’s perfectly fine to see them both for a couple weeks. 🤗

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WorstGooEver Nuke the Hurricanes
02/06/19 4:53 pm

I don’t see a problem with it.

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thedman Free Kyle Rittenhouse
02/06/19 11:29 pm

First, maybe. Third? No. Don’t go on third dates with two people at once. If not a second date, a third date is definitely an unspoken commitment. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone got real angry on a third date when you told them you were seeing someone else. This is all if a date means actually spending time together and talking. If y’all are just fuckin It’s probably fine

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HBNY this space for rent
02/06/19 5:52 pm

I’m not even sure that coffee with a guy is considered a date. So... just not sure.

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jmw7477 Indiana
02/07/19 12:10 pm

You have to make it known what you’re expecting from the relationship, if you’re seeing other people, etc.

My husband has a buddy that is very commitment-phobic. He’s afraid someone better is going to come along. So he dates a lot of women. He tells them he doesn’t want a commitment, but then does a lot of things that a boyfriend would do. Everyone has tried to tell him numerous times that he’s confusing these females. But he won’t listen.