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tclark October 21st, 2014 4:49pm

Do teenagers cut themselves because they want attention or because it makes them feel better (though I don't know how that would work)?

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citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/21/14 10:38 am

Also, be very careful with questions and comments that trivialize mental illness.

People, especially young people, will refuse to seek help because they don't want to be labeled negatively.

There's no shame for visiting a doctor for s broken

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citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/21/14 10:38 am

...bone and there shouldn't be any shame for visiting a doctor for mental health issues.

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citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/21/14 10:36 am

It can easily be both. It can be an externalization of internal pain and a cry for help.

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
10/21/14 2:13 pm

Most of the girls that I know who did that covered their arms so people couldn't see...suggesting that they didn't want the attention. In my experience, they did it to feel better. Kind of an emotional release along with the physical.

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bethanyq Ess Eff
10/21/14 11:10 am

I don't know that either is wholly accurate - and it depends on the individual in question. My understanding is that a significant percentage of cutting occurs due to high levels of stress and anxiety. It becomes a means of relieving the stress by

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bethanyq Ess Eff
10/21/14 11:11 am

providing a kind of release for the stress. Basically, the teen relieves the anxiety by causing physical pain to replace the psychological pain (teens are far from the only ones who use physical pain as a mechanism to alleviate psychological pain).

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bethanyq Ess Eff
10/21/14 11:11 am

So the second answer seems to come closest.

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
10/21/14 2:15 pm

Shared. Hope that's ok. I should have asked first.

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TigerShark47 Missouri
10/21/14 2:25 pm

I feel like it's a mixture of both. You cut to release the pain, and so that someone might understand you're really crying for help. I haven't ever done it so I could entirely wrong

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LCPP
10/21/14 2:25 pm

More like shitty coping mechanisms

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Wes28 CBus
10/21/14 3:45 pm

Both. But simply dismissing it as a "cry for attention" doesn't give the problem it's due justice.

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Krystina Let Freedom Reign
10/21/14 2:49 pm

This has been my experience as well. The several I've known who have been cutters all kept it hidden too. All have described it similarly; a better pain than the emotional pain they're in, a way to forget about their emotional pain, a release, etc.

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EarlyBird Portland
10/21/14 4:46 pm

Actually you're right. The physical pain releases the emotional pain.

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
10/21/14 3:16 pm

Yeo..."release" is the word I always heard.

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RoDe Latinus wordsus
10/21/14 4:40 pm

From my rudimentary understanding it seems to be about feeling in control.

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Ereri Shingeki no Kojin
10/21/14 3:46 pm

I have a friend that used to cut and it was for attention because they feel like none gives them enough attention

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cowboy Here and There
10/21/14 4:18 pm

Obviously they need help.

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FlipFlopGirl Sic semper tyrannis
10/21/14 4:23 pm

A friends niece is a cutter. But based on my conversations with my friend, she clearly needed help coping with life and daily issues. Cutting is to release pain but I think it's because they don't know how to deal any other way!

FlipFlopGirl Sic semper tyrannis
10/21/14 4:25 pm

But it took a while to get to the cutting point, parents just overlooked the mood swings as teen angst! The signs (wanting help) were there, but overlooked bc they just thought she was moody (which most teens are to some degree).

KingRodney Enjoy the Decline
10/21/14 3:27 pm

Nah, I think its attention. I don't see why else they'd do it. It doesn't solve the problem.

dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
10/21/14 4:32 pm

Had a friend who used to cut himself with broken glass. Can't say he did it on purpose. He just liked the scars.
Weird.

dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
10/21/14 4:34 pm

Oops. He did it on purpose. I just don't think it was to gain attention.

dventola98 CMU
10/21/14 3:39 pm

it's not all teens you should fix that

tclark tussle me
10/21/14 6:14 pm

Obviously. You should read the comments of my "have you blocked any SOH users" poll. It's very relevant.

FlipFlopGirl Sic semper tyrannis
10/21/14 4:21 pm

It's a cry for attention because they need help!